Mediation explained
Mediation can be a good option to help you and your former partner come to an agreement about arrangements following your separation. But what is mediation?
Mediation is a process in which you and your former partner have discussions and try to reach an agreement, with the assistance of a third party (the mediator). As part of mediation you can discuss arrangements for the children and also financial matters, such as what will happen with the family home and who will pay what for the children.
Mediation can take place in person, or remotely via a platform such as Zoom. If you don’t feel comfortable sitting in the same room as your ex, shuttle mediation could be an option. This is where you sit in separate rooms and the mediator moves between the rooms, trying to help facilitate an agreement. This can prolong the process but can allow couples who otherwise wouldn’t be suitable for mediation to participate in the process.
Why try mediation? Mediation can prove to be a more cost effective way of resolving issues around your separation than using solicitors to try to negotiate an agreement. I’m not knocking solicitors (I am one after all!) but I have seen how mediation allows people to reach an agreement quickly and with less expense.
You are also required to have attempted mediation before issuing court proceedings in relation to arrangements for the children or finances. There are exemptions from attending mediation where there is evidence of domestic abuse or risk to the children. A family law solicitor will be able to advise you if any of the exemptions apply to you. You can use our resource here to find a suitable local solicitor. Legal Aid is also available for mediation, subject to your financial situation. Some mediators don’t offer legal aid so make sure you check with your mediator if they are able to offer legal aid and whether you would be eligible.
Mediation can be a great way to reach an agreement with your former partner, with the assistance of a neutral, experienced third party who can guide you through the process. You can find a local mediator here who will be able to talk you through your options and help you decide if mediation is right for you.